Source: Raise Happy Children by Glenda Weil and Doro Marden, 2010
When your children face the problems or look upset, they may often present the problem in a way that irritates you, or you may get overwhelmed by their feelings and cannot be helpful.
To cope this situation, what you need to do is:
- The first step is always to accept what the children are feeling.
- Then, naming this feeling. Naming feelings helps to bring them into the thinking part of the brain and makes them easier to deal with.
- Touching them because touch is always powerful way to help children calm down and strengthen relationships.
- When the children feel better, questions and logic are not useful to them. What they need is to have what they are saying and feeling made easier to understand.
- Then, they can nearly always find their own solutions.